I took Cadey for an allergy skin test. She's not allergic to anything (even though she may still have gastrointestinal sensitivities that would explain symptoms but not show up on this test).
But I am allergic to something, or rather, someone: the doctor. And I will NOT be going back.
The conversation went something like this.
Doc: Tell me more about why you came
Me: Well, the family doctor wanted to rule out allergies as a cause for Cadey's rashes
Doc: OK, tell me about the rashes, how long to they last?
Me: it varies, totally unpredictable.
Doc: does she react to other things? Soap? Lotion? Did she react to her baby shots?
Me: It doesn't seem like it, and she hasn't had shots yet so I don't know
Doc: Why not?
Me (really not wanting to get into it): oh, there are lots of reasons.
Doc: Like what?
Me (big sigh): just lots of reasons
Doc: well, what are they?
Me: I've done quite a bit of research...
Doc: *sarcastic and cutting me off* Oh, I didn't realize you were an epidemiologist. What is it that you do?
Me: silently stewing.
Doc: so have you ever seen a polio patient?
Doc: HAVE YOU????
Me: no (stewing and thinking, really? polio?)
Doc: well, iron lungs are coming back, they're bringing them back - you might want to look into that and change your mind.
Me: silent (willing myself to be silent) *checks out*
The rest of the appointment was a total disaster. The doctor over-explained each test with great speed and technical terms, concluding each explanation with a disparaging, "I don't know how much of that you can understand" when I would ask a simple process question. It was horrible and I just wanted to escape.
Really, it's just another point against doctors, a group which I *try* to evaluate individually and with grace. Every experience like this makes me generally more distrustful. It's really unfortunate, and makes me MOST thankful for our doctors who do not act this way. So, because I was not prepared to discuss it then, I am now writing one of those pointless open letters. OK maybe catharsis is the point.
If you don't want to hear my answer, it is not acceptable to push me into answering just so that you can cut me off. Also, it is not ok to use sarcasm in your office toward anyone. It is not professional; it's also very unkind and almost always ineffective. Third, you do not know me, and yet, you are making assumptions about my intelligence. This does not make me value your obvious intelligence or years of expertise more. Fourth, if you truly think I can't handle researching to decide if or when I should vaccinate my children, why would you assume that I can handle researching iron lungs?
Lastly, if you are going to try to convince me of the need to vaccinate, please use something that is a little more of a known and proven risk than a wild polio outbreak in an Amish community almost 34 years ago. Maybe you could site the whooping cough outbreak in California in 2010 or Washington State just last year, or the 3 cases of measles last year that "really had Michigan doctors worried." Perhaps you could regale me with horror stories as other doctors have done. Maybe that would be more effective. (But probably not.) Remember: honey is more effective than vinegar.
I will not be back to your office.